If time could be bought and sold, it would be the World’s most valuable commodity. There’s never enough to go around, even though it’s distributed equally among every creature on earth simultaneously, and without prejudice. Yet, so many people at the end of the day, week, month, year, or their lifetime feel like they have been cheated. I don’t want to be one of those people. Perhaps it’s my age, sense of urgency, fear of death, or a combination of many things that drive the desire to live a balanced and fulfilling life, but whatever the catalyst, I’m grateful for the awareness.
Yesterday, Mike Van Hoozer came and spoke to our EO group. One of our members asked a great question about how it was possible to have balance as a high capacity, goal-oriented entrepreneur. Mike’s response was immediate and impactful. Paraphrasing a bit, Mike stated that goals should never compromise priorities. My spin would be that if you don’t set and protect your priorities, your goals will set them for you. Here’s a list of my priorities and partial list of my goals:
- Family – I want to be available to my wife and kids, be interested in them and their activities, and support them in their dreams and goals.
- Faith – I want to live a life of inquiry, grow daily in my Faith, and learn to exercise discipline and self control more often than not.
- Provision – I want to provide a comfortable lifestyle for my family and give generously.
- Fit – I want to live a long healthy life, free of disease and pain. I want to stay active.
- Do the right thing – Part of my purpose. Aspire to do the right thing and influence others to do the same.
- Learn spanish
- Play the piano well
- Write a book
- Live debt free
- Give half of what I have away before I die
- Be in a movie
- Travel the world
- Throw out the first pitch in a world series
This is only a partial goal list, but the point is that my growing goal list could easily serve as a detractor for my priorities, and at times does. We have power over our where, with who, and how we spend our time. It obeys our every command, but we must protect our priorities. Today, I’m reminding myself that I don’t want to miss one of life’s Moments.
I turned 35 in August, and as a result of the recent sale of DOYLES, I’ve had some time to reflect on my life as I prepare to pen a memoir. My success has been mirrored by much failure, however, what I’ve learned in the process is invaluable.
Life has taught me that…
1.) We hurt the ones we love the most and vice versa
2.) You don’t know who you are married to until you divorce them
3.) Business partnerships are a bad idea and seldom work
4.) Religion is the most divisive topic known to all mankind
5.) A man with an ego is like a baby with a bomb – God help me
6.) We learn more from children than we teach them
7.) Life is too short and death too permanent
8.) Attitude is the key to happiness
9.) Love is an action not a feeling
10.) I love myself
Surprisingly this wasn’t a premeditated list. I’m sure I could come up with many more of life’s lessons, but I like the flow of the first 10 that came to mind. Life can be hard, and can deliver a crippling blow when you least expect it, or even when you most expect it. Nevertheless, tomorrow brings the promise of hope and a future.